I am perfect. When I wake up my hair and makeup is already done. All the boys want me and my body figure is perfect. Pssh, I wish. For the most part of my middle school years, I was obsessed with being perfect. I can't exactly trace the reason for this, other than family. My brother is 9 years older than me and while he was in high school getting scolded for his poor performance, I was an impressionable elementary school student. The fights my parents and my brother would get into would scare me, so after hearing my parents scold him day-in and day-out I told myself that I would never receive a bad grade as long as I live; I didn't want to disappoint my parents. I soon learned that it was impossible to maintain a perfect report card while participating in the numerous extracurricular activities I had on my plate, but that didn't stop me from trying. My strive for perfection eventually reached every aspect of my life. I became obsessed with making sure people saw me in a certain way that if I thought I upset someone for whatever reason, I would beat myself up for days. I once told my mom this and she said, "It's because you care too much about others." Could this be true? 'Til this day I sometimes condemn myself for making mistakes, but I'm slowly learning that perfection does not exist and that I have to live and move on. After all, no one's perfect. Right?
Well, this is why I think I love fashion so much; it's fickle. One year something can be "in" and the next, it's "out". Fashion stands for the complete opposite of me. I am far from a fickle person, so having something in my life that balances my slight obsession makes me feel complete! However, I think the best designers create silhouettes and pieces that are everlasting and well, perfect.
Have you ever found yourself obsessing over perfection?
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Secretista
Well, this is why I think I love fashion so much; it's fickle. One year something can be "in" and the next, it's "out". Fashion stands for the complete opposite of me. I am far from a fickle person, so having something in my life that balances my slight obsession makes me feel complete! However, I think the best designers create silhouettes and pieces that are everlasting and well, perfect.
Have you ever found yourself obsessing over perfection?
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Secretista
yeah, like chanel....timeless perfection.
ReplyDeleteI noticed 'God' and 'the truth' in your interests as I browsed folks interested in elephants.
ReplyDeleteAnyway, it reminded me I read something interesting the other day. Can't remember where.
It was that faith is the avoidance of truth.
Faith being a decision to believe stuff that isn't provably true, seemed to make perfect sense (food for thought?).
Aloha! Got here through Elisabeth's Wine Glass Logistics. By the way, your blog is pretty awesome. I <3 those photos of you jumping around. I need to take photos of me like that too. Instead of puckering up and trying to look sexy =p
ReplyDeleteObsessing over perfection? Of course. Who hasn't?
There are days I want to have tiny boobs, legs that never end, and hipbones jutting out of my skin so I go on diets and take laxatives. And then I realise girls would kill for my boobs so thats end the quest for "perfection" and I'm back to happy.
Well...most of time anyways...
i can relate to this post! :)
ReplyDeletebeing the middle child in the family, i always felt left out or unwanted. i have an older sister, an older brother, and my baby brother.. and i always feel like the "second sister", the "just another daughter" etc. its so funny because all my siblings are well-favored that they dont study/struggle that much.. whereas i always "try" to be the top of the class, and all. but instead of getting merits from my parents, they just say, "good job", but then scold me if i make the smallest mistakes.. etc. so i started to be the "black sheep" and never followed rules.. i think i did that so my parents cud at least "notice" me.. etc.
but after years of trying, i got tired. and instead of impressing my parents, i focused on things that makes me happy. sure enough, they noticed me MORE being/acting like MYSELF. but i have no regrets for even "trying" bec thats when i learned.. u can NEVER try to please anyone if u dont act like yourself. and no matter how hard you try to please everyone, u just cant please all.. :):)
so this is getting long.. but my pt is, i think we have this "obsessions" for particular reasons. and like you, the reason why ilike fashion so much is because i could EXPRESS MYSELF.. ok, so i dress odd/weird than the others i know, but hey.. its ME! either you LOVE it or HATE it! bec ILOVEME! :):) mwah! xoxo
I always want people to see me in my best! Sometimes its really tiring & I wish to be myself too.
ReplyDeleteI think we all have these feeelings at some point or other, its just knowing and accepting them without them controlling our life is the best way through!!
ReplyDeleteFor example Chanel ))) I can't add a thing. Nobody is perfect and sometimes we just pay too much attention to others )))
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yeah, sometimes i am perfectionist too. it could be because we care too much about others, or it could be because we have a natural ambition, that depends. i care about others very much, i guess i am pretty thin-skinned, and i am perfectionist, though not in the ordinary way. of course, i WISH i had all the things you mentioned at the beginning of the post: perfect appearance, the admiration of everybody... (only i like doing my make-up, so thought needn't be done when i wake up ^^ but my hair could. ugh, i hate doing my hair ^^) but then: what is perfect? what is the perfect appearance? for some people it is adriana lima, for other people it's arnold schwarzenegger (well, not exactly, but you get my point). i am perfectionist by being ambitious to achieving my goals, my own goals that i set for myself.
ReplyDeleteI think that the idea of being perfect is something we all strive for..some more than others of course! But I think it's a good thing because it helps us try to do our best in every situation. Though it's not good to be too obsessed with being perfect as it will make you burned out and very self-critical. I have found myself obsessing over perfection, but I have come to find that it is only human to make mistakes..and it's necessary to make some because we learn of our mistakes and become better people like that!
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I can relate.... striving for perfection in my youth but never really getting there and then realising that it's impossible to get there and thus letting go and being content with being...well an imperfect mediocrity!
ReplyDeleteimperfection is what makes us beautiful and special... if we were all the same the world would be pretty boring and "on trend" wouldnt exist.... then we wouldnt have anything to write about right?. I think you are lovely. xf
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ReplyDeleteI think people will believe what makes sense to them to believe.
If it makes sense and is helpful to believe something, that's fine with me. Everybody does it (you can tell by how many different beliefs there are).
But it seem to makes sense for many reasons other than because it's true.
When of course someone believes it's true (after all they believe it, and it helps them, so it must be true right?) and insists on that is where I say 'ok, prove it'.
If faith is the key to believing and any proof (other than based on 'feelings') is not forthcoming, insisting on its truth seems silly.
Someone might subscribe to a set of beliefs because becoming a part of or staying in a certain group of people might require it.
Or it helps them emotionally, or helps them make sense of the world, or explains their existence or gives them purpose or whatever.
But whatever it is, and why ever we believe it, if it requires faith to keep believing and can't be proved, it should never be insisted upon that it's true is all.
A strong emotional attachment can have people say 'I just know'.
I say 'no you don't (unless you can prove it), you just think you do'.
Trouble is saying 'but I could be wrong' doesn't sit well with faith.
Not many folks come to religion from an honest search for truth.
From a clean slate, a hard look at the facts, and decide 'yeah, that makes sense'.
Usually I'd say it happens from an emotional response to other people's concern for them (maybe during hard times), filling a need, and the person can say 'this is great. I can believe that'.
Then all you need is faith and your life is complete. Although it might not be the truth. Faith will most likely ensure you stick with it rather than seriously consider if it is really true or not.
This works in all areas of life in my view. Not just religion. Beliefs about books, music, food, exercise, diets, vacuum cleaners, places to live, you name it. You have to make a decision, most likely the decision isn't rational, it relative. Relative to how it makes you feel.
My truth, not the truth.
Anyway, thanks again for your reply.
I like perfection and chic...in other people. It just doesn't work on me, but I revel in being a bit crumpled and imperfect
ReplyDeletewhat exactly IS perfection? everyone's idea is different anyway so might as well just do/dress in the way that makes your life meaningful/happy.
ReplyDeleteI think perfection doen´t exist, even Gisele Bundchen is not perfect, i think we are all beautiful with our best and worse :)
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im real obsessed with being perfect. I want perfect hair n perfect clothes n perfect body. eveyerones perfect is different to everyone elses perfect. Of corse i dont have an eating disorder but i spend way to much time worrying about what im eating n weather ive worked out today or not. its madness but i cant help it.x
ReplyDeleteMy older sister (but not the oldest) is much like you. She strives for perfection and will punish herself when shes does something wrong. I also care about perfection, but less so in the ways of getting my parents approval/friends affirmation...its hard to just let things be for us all.
ReplyDeleteI agree- I too strive for it (or something close to) perfection and elegance in my life. Perfection doesn't exist, and although it has taken me quite a while to realize it, nobody is perfect. Some hide it better than others, but no one is the perfect person. It's important for everyone to just be and remain who they are and strive for their own goals and not someone elses.
ReplyDeleteI definitely don't believe in perfection, but still strive for it. Go figure! I think there's a lot more pressure for women to be perfect or meet some unrealistic ideal. Pisses me off...grrr...
ReplyDeleteI definitely don't believe in perfection, but still strive for it. Go figure! I think there's a lot more pressure for women to be perfect or meet some unrealistic ideal. Pisses me off...grrr...
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